However, the benefits of gratitude go way beyond motivating others to be more loyal, work harder, sacrifice more, and so forth. The true power of gratitude is that it has a positive effect on both the receiver and the giver – not to mention on the relationship between the two. It has been demonstrated time and time again that even simple expressions of gratitude impact people in real, tangible ways.
Why are expressions of gratitude so powerful? The reasons are many. They create a heightened sense of self-esteem, self-worth and overall well-being. They generate feelings of being appreciated, needed, valued, and respected. They improve general morale and emotional state. They establish collaborative ties between people. They forge a strong positive interpersonal and/or group dynamic. For these and many other reasons it is impossible to overestimate the power of gratitude.
With all of this information in view, it should come as absolutely no surprise that communicating gratitude in marriage can also be extremely powerful. One study from the University of Georgia concluded that feeling appreciated and valued by your spouse directly impacts how you feel about your marriage, how committed you are to it, and your belief that it will last. The existence of gratitude also enhances the sense of safety and security in a relationship. It creates good will, promotes unity, and solidifies loving attachment. Certainly there is a strong connection between simple expressions of gratefulness and general satisfaction and happiness in marriage.
The bottom line is there are many reasons to verbalize and demonstrate gratitude to your spouse – and zero reasons not to do so. It is simple, free, and will feel good to both of you. Why not try being more grateful towards your mate? You can start today! There is a lot to gain and absolutely nothing to lose.
